Being a part of the handmade community is something special + something that is built over time.  One creative gal connecting with another creative gal, one social connection at a time.  Usually, these relationships are not built in real life but instead through social sites such as blogs, Facebook, Twitter, Instagram + Pinterest.

One of the creative gals that I have connected with is Lindsay of Pen & Paint.   I believe I follow Lindsay on every site possible.  Why?  Not because I am a stalker, but because she is always showing behind the scene pics that makes my mouth water.  She shows pics of her drawings, as she is drawing them with a caption about what is inspiring her to draw in that moment!  And she draws/paints sewing machines (SWOON!)

Here are my two latest prints from Lindsay!   Thank you so much for the prints Lindsay, I love them! 

I love this quote!  It's simple but so powerful in a house where we choose to speak kindly to one another.  Some days human natures will get the best of us + something not so kind will over flow from our most powerful muscle in our body, the tongue. 

This sits in our living room as a simple reminder that our words matter + they hold weight.  

Choose Joy!  This has been my inner dialogue for several years now.  When I am doing something, I choose to do it with joy!  If I have said "Yes" to something, I better do it with joy or else I should have said "No"

I say this to my family when complaining begins + there is something else they would rather be doing.  

Lindsay's work is beautiful + it's perfection at it's finest.  You will not find a flaw in her drawings ever!  Here are her links so you can join her + see her behind the scenes creativeness.  

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Are a consumer or a producer?  You could be both if you are in the handmade marketplace at any level.  Or you could just be a consumer and you only purchase products and services.  

Either way, I am going to cover why it's good to give a review and why it's good to receive reviews and a few ways that I have found to be helpful.  

First, I am a consumer.  I shop. A lot.  I shop on Amazon for groceries, yes, that's true.  I shop for sales online at my favorite stores, once I know my size for their clothing.  And we stay at hotels.  I also leave reviews.  The top reason I leave a review is because they have asked.  I get an email in my box asking me how my product & how my transaction went.  It has to be easy for me & I have to be reminded.  So a few simple clicks on my part, leave my review, click publish & they have a new review.  

I believe that it's important to leave facts about a product or service.  Adding emotions is okay but leaving facts is a plus.  For example, at a recent hotel stay, their coffee was terrible.  It was old peoples coffee.  Amongst the positive things that I enjoyed about my stay at their hotel, I also made note that their coffee bar, or lack there of, needed some attention.  Most people don't like powdered creamer.  Just sayin' folks!  

Leaving a review for Amazon is much different than leaving a review for a handmade shop from Etsy.  There's a lot of people involved in an Amazon transaction & it's not an emotional transaction either.  Leaving a review for an Etsy shop is going to be ready by the person that thought up the product, shopped for the supplies, carefully created the product, packaged the product, took it to the post office and sent you a notice that it was on it's way.  One. Person. Did. That. For. You!  

I have had a couple customers of mine contact me about an issue with the product they received from me.  One in particular sent a picture and said that there was a jam.  In the picture, it was a few threads that needed to be trimmed from the back stitch.  I emailed her back that she just needed to snip them.  She was relieved and so was I.  I also thanked her for contacting me privately so I could guide her and let her know that her product was okay and that it in fact wasn't flawed & it wouldn't unravel at the seam.  I was thankful that she didn't leave a nasty review saying how terribly made the product was and that it was jammed, but instead we came to a solution through messaging each other and the picture she sent me.  

Next, I am an Etsy shop owner in the handmade marketplace.  I am always learning.  I read non stop about how to improve and grow my business.  My latest endeavor is focusing on how to get reviews.    I can wish & hope that they will just do it on their own.  But remember, I have to be reminded to leave a review, I am sure I am not the only one that needs a reminder or an incentive.  I took action on how to get more reviews & it's working.  

On my Etsy site, when an item is purchased the customer gets a Thank You note with a link to my lil' alice FB page to connect with me there.  The consumer receives another note after I have stopped at the post office to ship them their package.  In that note, I ask them to write a review once they receive their product.  Once a receive a review from them, I write them a personal note saying thanks for the review along with a coupon code off of their next lil' alice purchase!  

Simply ask for a review, then when they respond to your request, give them an incentive to come back. 

We are all consumers.  We are often thrilled with our purchases, but sometimes, there's disappointment too.  We are so quick to leave negative feedback and we forget to let them know that we fell in love with our other purchases.  Good or bad, leave a review.  An honest one. You never know, you might get a coupon code for your next purchase!

April was an amazing month for lil' alice. At the end if March I made a Essential Oil Zip Pouch for someone who wanted something cute to carry her oils in as opposed to the plastic sandwich bag.



This was actually an easy adjustment to the essential zippered pouches that I already make and can make in my sleep.



Today is the first day that I have been caught up on orders for these! It's been a constant flow of orders thru Etsy.

I have +60 of these darlings all over the United States, a few to Canada, and one to Singapore.  I am blown away from all the orders + the repeat customers too! 

What makes this Essential Oil Zip Pouch such a hit?

• it's laminated, which makes it waterproof and easy to wipe.
• elastic is sewn onto the lining making 8 spots available for the oils to be held into place!
• it has boxed corners, which allows it to stand on it's own.
• it's sturdy, not floppy or flimsy!
• the prints are fun!

What else can these be used for? Since there's elastic on the inside to hold the oils, it could also be used to hold lipsticks and nail polishes too.



Head over to the lil' alice Etsy Shop and see the new fabrics that were just listed, because the previous prints are nearly sold out (like the yellow chevron).

About 5 weeks ago I went on a "No Poo" adventure. That simply means I'm not using shampoo + conditioner to wash my hair.

What am I using, you ask?

Baking soda mixed with water and Apple Cider Vinegar mixed with water. I'm not sure of the portions but it's working.

Here is what I have noticed.

-My hair is fuller. Like shampoo commercial fuller. I have really thick hair and this just enhances it.

-I loose less hair. I'm not sure why but I'm not pulling out handfuls. I have a comb in the shows and I run a comb thru it and it's visibly less.

-My hair felt dryer during the first 2 weeks or so. I almost gave up. But on the 14th day it felt better. It was the first day I actually liked it. I don't have oily hair at all so this is expected.

-Before I washed my hair every other day, I'm going 4 days now and it still feels great. I don't feel homeless.

Next, my nails. I use to paint my long nails when I was younger. Like, before I was married, before I did dishes, scrub sinks, toilets + before kids.

"Back then" my nails were always nicely painted. I was drawn towards reds and browns. They never chipped. They lasted forever. And my nails were always a long length and all the same size.

I'm a bit picky. I don't want chipped nails. With my hands always being in water my nails would chip the next day and I would be taking it off. A waste of time to me. Oh and the drying time with the littles, impossible.

A couple years ago I did a set if gel/shellac nails. They were okay but a bit of an expense. About 5 weeks ago I tried it again and I liked them. Had them done again and I loved them even more. The polish didn't chip and my nails didn't break. SOLD.

I graduated from cosmetology school the same year I graduated from high school. It was a vocational option. Through the years I've kept my license up.

I've been tossing around the idea of buying everything and doing it myself. I'm about a 25 minute drive to a nail salon, then if I have to wait it's more of my time. Plus the cost of having them done.

I purchased everything this week. I knew the process just from having then done. But I also watched a few you tube videos for clarity.

Yesterday I did my nails and I'm really happy with the way they turned out. And I know I will be doing this often.

It's been about 5 years since my husband & I took FPU.  At the time we were part of a small group from our church & we did it as one of our studies.  One of the things that stuck with us through that time was 401Dave.

401Dave is the child saves for a car & when he gets his drivers license the parent matches what the child saves dollar for dollar.  Our kids know about the 401Dave plan & at 14 & 11, they know they will be buying their own car & that we will match it.  

My oldest son, Zakkery is 14.  He's nearing the point that he will be starting drivers training soon.  He doesn't show much emotion about it.  When he was younger, he never wanted to drive.  The thought scared him.  Being the oldest, he's my safety child.  But he has always loved cars.  He's my artist, so he draws cars ALL the time.  His dream is to work for GM and draw their prototype cars!  Let's not discuss the recalls on GM cars right now, ok!

As the years have passed, he's okay with learning to drive a car on a road where there are laws.  He does indeed love driving go carts & off road vehicles, which never makes sense to me.  But I digress.  He will be signing up shortly for drivers training because I will not be driving him to college.  That would be weird people!  

Once again, I am raising men!  

How have my kids saved for their future cars?

They are savers.  Whenever they get money for work, allowance (which that word no longer is allowed in our house), birthdays, holidays, etc., they put it in their wallet (which they don't ever carry).  Then I go in and check out how much money they have in there & it's easily over $100.  I then notify the husband that he needs to have the boys make a deposit into their "bank account".  They then add up their money & get the total & it's all done on a piece of paper. 

You see, my husband & I don't spend a $1 here or there.  The dollar store wasn't a reward store for the boys.  We never felt the need to buy the boys something every time we stepped foot into a store.  When we stop to get gas, we just get gas.  We don't run in and grab a box of candy & a drink for everyone.  That innocent spending is mindless & it adds up.  So being that we don't spend our money that way, the boys don't either.  If I am running to the store & they are going with me, they don't say, "Oh wait, I need to grab $5 in case I see something I want!"

That is how my kids have been able to save their money for their future cars!  

**My husband & I are wondering if we will be able to match dollar for dollar because they have some serious cash going on!**

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Allowance.  Kids reach a certain age & they request an allowance.  Mine did.  We discussed it & they received it.  There weren't any guidelines on getting it or not getting it.  I guess you could say they got it because they had air in their lungs!  The allowance is coming to a screeching halt! 

You see, allowance means that they are "allowed" a certain amount of money for just living & breathing!  Think about it.  We are guilty of this!  

While eating dinner Friday evening, we broke it to the boys (ages 14 & 11) that allowance will be ending & commission will be taking its place!

With a blank stare from the offsprings,  we shared our exciting news,  and we went on to explain what that means for them financially.  

Their new word for the day was "Commission".  

We explained that they will have "projects" or "jobs" to do either independently or with the help of their sibling or parent.  That "job" will have a dollar amount pinned to it!  

For example, I will have to lay a fresh coat of mulch in my flower beds in a few weeks.  Instead of me doing it by myself, which I would normally do, that will be a "job" & $10 will be tagged to it.  I will assist & work beside them. These jobs will be written on a 3x5 card with the payment written on it.  So they can determine which job to do & which job they would rather pass on!

They will learn quickly that Work = Money & No Work = No Money!  

Let me make it very clear, they will not be getting commission to wash & fold their laundry, empty the dishwasher, clean their bathroom etc.  These are chores that they are required to do because they wear the clothes, they eat and drink from the dishes & they use the bathroom frequently.  Therefore, you dirty it, you clean it!  This has been in place for years & something they already do!

I know it may sound harsh, but their father & I are raising men that will find their passion in life & make money doing it!  They will not be living in my basement at 29, eating my food & not having a job!  

When we teach our kids responsibilities & we teach them that if they work they get paid, we are  instilling in them a drive to work & at the same time we give them dignity! 

Have you ever noticed how a child stands a little taller & they become a little more confident when they take pride in something?  


Keeping these conversations alive in the household reminds them that life isn't free.  I am excited to see the transition, working for commission & not just expecting a hand over for breathing for an entire week!  


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Work.  It's a complete sentence if you ask me.  It's something we all have to do.  As parents we want to instill good work ethics, we want them to know that work is as equal as breathing air.  But it's hard to convince them of that.  It takes a little more effort. 

 If you want to survive in this world you must work & you must have air in your lungs.  


In the book, "Smart Money Smart Kids" by Dave Ramsey & Rachel Cruz, chapter 2 (Work - It's not a Four Letter Word), explains how kids need to learn at an early age that working = money.  Requiring kids to do age appropriate chores around the house is ok.  They won't die, although they may try to convince you they will.  Allowing kids to do nothing while you do everything to make their world a better place, is not okay!  I am not raising boys.  I am not raising teenagers.  I am raising young men!  That's my end goal as their mother & that is my #1 job!

Dave says, "Teaching children to work is not child abuse.  We teach them to work not for our benefit, but because it gives them both dignity in a job well done today and the tools and character to win in the future as adults."

Growing up in Michigan a child learns early not to toss pop cans & bottles in the trash can or recycling bin.  It's worth .10! (Why isn't there a cent sign on the keyboard, have we not arrived?) I digress..... anyway, we have large amounts of pop cans under the sink in the garage & under the sink in the basement.  They gather at a rapid pace.  

One day last Summer, my husband said to both boys, ages 11 & 13 at the time, gather the pop cans & bottles, count them, put them in boxes & bags and I will take you to the corner store to return them.  You get to keep the money.  Child B did all the work.  He gathered the pop cans & bottles, counted them a few times for accuracy, put them in bags and boxes and then told his Dad he was ready to go to the corner store.  

A while later they arrived back home & Child B had spent his money.  He rewarded his work with a glass bottle of Mt. Dew & a steak, fresh from the meat counter at the corner store!  Child A looks excited when he sees what his brother had purchased and says, "Where's mine?"  His Dad looks at him and calmly explains, "I asked you both to gather the pop cans.  Jeremiah hopped right to it & he got the job done.  Since he did all the work, he got to keep/spend the money!" 

Zakkery didn't have a fit, he didn't have a tantrum.  He knew he should have worked if he wanted to benefit from doing work.  He was bummed, no doubt!  His brother had a cold glass bottle of Mt. Dew that he was carefully nursing on a hot Summer day!

This was a great teachable moment for both of the boys.  I remember great conversation taking place that evening as we ate dinner.  We didn't bash him for not wanting to collect the pop cans & bottles.  He got the lesson loud and clear! We didn't overly praise that child that did do all the work.  He got the lesson loud and clear too!

Since that day, there's been plenty more trips to the corner store to return the pop cans & bottles.

On December 1, 2013 I went wheat free.  You could say it wasn't the best time to go wheat free.  Right before the holidays & all.  But I did & I didn't cave & eat any awesome rolls that were served at my sister in laws house for Christmas Dinner. 

I have allowed myself twice to eat wheat.  Once was when we got off the plane in South Carolina + we passed a Chick Filet.  Another time on the same trip, we had an appetizer sample platter + I had a quesadilla.  My stomach did hurt after I had the quesadilla + it continued to hurt for several hours after.  

But I can honestly say that I have lost the craving for bread, fresh rolls from the oven or a fresh loaf of bread that is placed on your table by the waiter.  For me that is progress + self control.  

Every once in a while I will snap a picture of myself in the morning.  I never take a picture of my face in the morning, scary sight people!  But the other day I snapped the picture on the left because I actually had makeup on + I wanted to compare the progress of the Wheat Belly Project.  

I flipped through my pics + found the pic on the right which was taken exactly a year ago from the pic I took on the right.  I couldn't see progress in my face on an everyday basis + I think that is pretty common.  We are very critical of ourselves for one + secondly we see ourself every single day!  


The scale is just a number.  It's not my biggest motivator along this journey!  Instead my biggest motivator has been seeing the changes thru pictures!


What motivates you to stay in shape + treat your body well?

On April 22, 2014 a new book will be released. "Smart Money Smart Kids" by Dave Ramsey & Rachel Cruze, his daughter.

I applied to be on the launch team for this book and I was accepted. I was pretty excited because these are the types of books I enjoy reading. I also listen to Dave Ramsey on my iPad when I am sewing.

Everyone on the launch team received a PDF copy of the book. I have been reading it and it is so so good.

I haven't completed it yet but I do know this: it's an easy read, it deals with money and you and I make daily decisions about money. But who's teaching your kids about money?

If it's not you, then who? Don't assume that they will "just know" how to manage money. Don't assume that school will cover it. Don't assume they will just pick "it" up and "figure it out".

More is caught than taught!

"Smart Money Smart Kids" is full of real life experiences and lessons that can teach kids how to win with money!

Hop over to the website and read the first two chapter for free or preorder your copy at www.smartmoneysmartkids.com

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